As July comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on a month filled with growth, challenges, and triumphs. This has been a whirlwind of experiences, each contributing to my journey both personally and professionally. From attending a major expo to moving in with my partner, this month has been busy.
The Sex Expo: A Journey of Nerves and Triumph
One of the most significant events this month was hosting a stand at The Sex Expo for the first time. Walking into the expo, I was a bundle of nerves, overwhelmed by imposter syndrome. My stand, simple in comparison to some of the more elaborate setups, made me question my place among the seasoned professionals. However, as the days progressed, pride replaced my initial insecurity.
The expo was an eye-opening experience, showcasing the diversity and vibrancy of the adult industry. My stand, though modest, attracted a steady stream of visitors curious about my offerings. I had the opportunity to present workshops to complete strangers and random people from the crowd, which was a new experience for me. Holding a microphone and addressing an audience was daunting initially, but it quickly became exhilarating. The audience’s engagement and interest were incredibly encouraging.
The highlight of my time at the expo was conducting private demos in the Theatre of Erotica. The caning demo with FruitChutney drew the largest audience, a testament to the growing interest in BDSM practices. Despite the exhaustion that followed, the connections made and the knowledge shared were well worth it. I’m still evaluating the business impact, but the experience has undoubtedly been a stepping stone in my professional journey.
Exploring New Opportunities
Another intriguing aspect of this month has been supporting my friend who is considering becoming a virtual assistant for professional dominatrices internationally. The idea of a virtual assistant dedicated to this niche is both innovative and practical. Many dominatrices, myself included, juggle numerous tasks daily. Having a dedicated assistant to manage administrative duties, client communications, and social media can be invaluable.
We’ve spent time brainstorming and discussing the potential challenges and rewards of this role. From understanding the unique needs of dominatrices to ensuring confidentiality and professionalism, there’s much to consider. It’s fascinating to see the different ways people can contribute to this industry, and I’m eager to see how this journey unfolds for my friend. This exploration has also made me reflect on my operations and how I can streamline them for efficiency.
July’s Special Offer
In an effort to attract new submissives, I introduced a special offer this month. The idea was simple yet effective: when new clients book their first play session, they receive a discount of ZAR 550, covering the cost of the introductory session. This initiative was aimed at those who have been curious but hesitant to take the plunge.
The response has been encouraging. Many new clients have taken advantage of the offer, leading to a busy and fulfilling month. It’s heartening to see new faces and to help them explore on their journey into this world. The introductory sessions have been a blend of education and exploration, providing a safe space for subbies to express their interests and boundaries. This initiative has not only boosted my clientele but also reaffirmed the importance of accessibility and education in BDSM practices.
Gathering Feedback to Improve Professional Dominatrix Experiences
Understanding my audience and improving my services is always a priority. To that end, I set up a comprehensive survey to gather feedback from my submissives and social media followers. The survey covered various aspects, including my social media content, YouTube content, Discord server, professional dominatrix services, femdom content, and website interface experience.
The responses have been incredibly insightful and detailed, providing a clear picture of what my audience appreciates and where there is room for improvement. Many followers appreciated the educational and informative content I share on social media. They highlighted the value of posts that explain BDSM practices, safety protocols, and the principles of consent. Some followers suggested incorporating more behind-the-scenes glimpses into my work, which they find intriguing and relatable. There were also requests for more interactive content, such as Q&A sessions and live streams, to foster a more direct connection with the audience.
The feedback on my YouTube channel was particularly interesting. Viewers expressed a strong interest in more vlog-style videos. They also enjoyed the Q&A sessions and suggested making them a regular feature. There was a desire for more in-depth discussions on topics like consent, negotiation, and aftercare, as well as personal stories and experiences that provide a human touch to the educational content.
The Discord server has been praised for its sense of community and support. Members appreciate the safe space to discuss their interests and share experiences. Some suggested more structured discussions and events, such as themed chat sessions, expert Q&As, and virtual workshops.
The feedback on my professional services has been invaluable. Clients have expressed appreciation for the thorough consultations and the emphasis on safety and consent. They highlighted the importance of clear communication and the personalised approach to each session. Some suggested expanding the range of services offered, such as incorporating more advanced BDSM techniques or offering educational sessions for beginners. There were also requests for more flexible booking options and detailed information on the preparation for sessions.
Followers who enjoy femdom content provided feedback on what they find most engaging. Many appreciated the empowering and confident portrayal of femdom dynamics. They suggested more varied scenarios and role-plays. There was also interest in collaborations with other femdom creators and more interactive content where followers can suggest scenarios or ask questions.
The feedback on my website highlighted the importance of a user-friendly interface. Users appreciated the clear layout and easy navigation but suggested a few improvements. These included more detailed descriptions of services and an FAQ section to address common questions.
A Personal Milestone: Moving In with My Partner
On a more personal note, this July has marked a significant milestone in my life: I’m moving in with my partner. This transition is a blend of excitement and a touch of nervousness, as we start this new chapter together. Combining our lives and sharing a space is a beautiful step forward in our relationship, and I’m looking forward to all the memories we will create in our new home.
The process of moving in has been both exhilarating and challenging. Coordinating the logistics, merging our belongings, and setting up a shared space have been tasks that required patience and cooperation. It’s been a period of adjustment, but also one of deepening connection. We’ve spent time discussing our expectations, boundaries, and hopes for our shared future, strengthening our bond.
This move also signifies a new chapter in my personal life. Having a supportive partner to share my journey with adds a layer of richness and stability. It’s a reminder of the importance of personal connections and the balance between professional and personal life.
Exploring Shibari
This month, I also had the opportunity to attend two shibari classes. Shibari, the beautiful art of Japanese rope bondage, has always intrigued me, and these classes have deepened my appreciation for its intricacy and elegance. The experience was not only educational but also profoundly meditative. Each knot and tie felt like a step closer to mastering this delicate art form.
The classes were an immersive experience, offering a blend of technical instruction and philosophical insights into shibari. Learning the techniques and understanding the importance of safety and consent in rope bondage was enlightening. The meditative aspect of shibari, focusing on the present moment and the connection between the rigger and the rope bottom, was a highlight. These classes have inspired me to incorporate more shibari into my practice, enhancing both my personal and professional repertoire.
SAFE BDSM Trademark: A Commitment to Safety
This month brought an exciting new business idea to the forefront. A submissive approached me with the concept of the SAFE BDSM trademark, a symbol of dedication to practices that are Safe, Sane, and Consensual. We are collaborating to develop this trademark into a recognizable standard within the BDSM community, ensuring that practitioners adhere to the highest standards of safety and respect.
The goal of the SAFE BDSM trademark is to create a certification that professionals can attain, assuring clients of their commitment to these principles. This certification will involve a rigorous vetting process and thorough assessment criteria, ensuring that practitioners are well-versed in the essential practices of SAFE BDSM. We envision it becoming a mark of trust and quality, giving clients confidence in their choice of professionals.
Working on this project has been inspiring and aligns perfectly with my dedication to fostering a secure and supportive environment for exploration and expression. The process has involved extensive research and collaboration, drawing on the expertise of various professionals in the field. We’ve been focusing on developing robust vetting processes and comprehensive assessment criteria to ensure the certification’s integrity.
Promoting SAFE BDSM involves continuous education and communication with clients and the wider community. It’s about creating an environment where everyone feels respected and empowered to express their desires and limits. This commitment has always been a cornerstone of my practice, and I am dedicated to upholding these principles in every session and interaction. The SAFE BDSM trademark is a tangible representation of these values, and I am excited about its potential impact on the community.
This initiative not only aims to raise the standards within the BDSM community but also to provide a sense of security and trust for those seeking services. By adhering to the SAFE BDSM guidelines, practitioners can demonstrate their dedication to creating safe, consensual, and sane environments for their clients. The development of this trademark is a significant step forward in promoting safety, respect, and professionalism within the industry.
I look forward to the continued development of the SAFE BDSM trademark and its positive impact on the community. This project is a testament to the importance of collaboration, innovation, and unwavering commitment to the principles that guide our practices.
A Night of Fun: The “Girls, Gays, and Theys” Sleepover
Another highlight of July was being invited to a “girls, gays, and theys” sleepover. This inclusive and welcoming environment allowed us to celebrate our diverse identities and form deeper connections with amazing people. Being invited to such an event felt especially meaningful to me, as I was rarely included in similar gatherings during my school days. Back then, I often felt like the odd one out, but this time, it was different.
The night was spent in quality time together, engaging in meaningful conversations and sharing our experiences. It was incredibly heartwarming to be part of a group where everyone was neurospicy, just like me. We were all excitedly sharing about our special interests, and it felt like a true celebration of who we are.
One of the most enriching aspects of the sleepover was the opportunity to ask questions and educate each other on various BDSM practices. This exchange of knowledge and experiences was incredibly valuable, as it allowed us to learn from each other’s perspectives and expertise.
What made the evening truly special was the sense of acceptance and support. We were all there, listening to each other talk about our special interests with genuine enthusiasm and curiousity. This night of connection and education reminded me of the power of community and the importance of having spaces where we can openly discuss and explore our interests. It was a refreshing break from routine and a testament to the strength and resilience of our diverse community.
For once, I didn’t feel like the odd one out. Instead, I felt seen, heard, and valued. This sleepover not only strengthened our bonds but also enriched our understanding of BDSM, reinforcing the importance of continuous learning and community support. It was a memorable and uplifting experience, and I am incredibly grateful for the invitation and the wonderful people I got to share the night with.
Filming with New Women Content Creators
Another exciting development this July was the opportunity to collaborate with new women content creators. This experience was incredibly enriching and opened up new avenues for creativity and connection within the community.
Working with these talented women was inspiring. Each brought their unique perspectives and skills to the table, creating a dynamic and collaborative environment. We explored various themes and ideas, blending our styles to produce content that was both innovative and reflective of our shared passions.
Filming together allowed us to learn from each other, share techniques, and discuss our experiences in the industry. It was a powerful reminder of the importance of collaboration and support among creators. The energy and enthusiasm were contagious, making the entire process enjoyable and fulfilling.
This collaboration not only expanded my creative horizons but also helped build a stronger network of like-minded professionals. It was a testament to the power of community and the incredible things we can achieve when we come together.
I’m excited to share the content we created and look forward to more collaborations in the future!
Looking Ahead
As I look back on July, I’m filled with a sense of accomplishment and gratitude. Each challenge faced and triumph achieved has contributed to my growth. Moving forward, I’m excited to build on these experiences, continuing to evolve and provide the best possible service to my submissives and community.
Let’s Connect!
I’d love to hear from you. Here are a few questions to spark some conversation:
What personal milestones or challenges have you faced this month, and how have they impacted you?
Have you ever attended a workshop or class that significantly influenced your perspective or skills? If so, what was it and how did it change you?
What community events or gatherings have you enjoyed recently, and what made them special for you?
Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below. Your stories and experiences are important to me, and I look forward to reading them!
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