From dominant to Dom
Being dominant came naturally to me, but being a Professional Dominant took years of exploration, education, training, and hard work. And I continue to learn. I grow and evolve with every session, every interaction I have, and every piece of research I do. For me, BDSM is a beautiful, endless exploration of mind, body and spirit.
Being in control has been part of who I am from a young age – I was required to raise a younger sibling and look after my mother.
While working as an exotic dancer I discovered its full power and beauty. I wielded the power to keep alcohol and hormone fuelled patrons in line, and I saw the beauty when customers made kinky requests. Requests for spitting, spanking, choking and sucking on sweaty stockings piqued my interest and awakened my Dom. Soon I was asking clients about their kinks, and finding new ways to tantalise and explore.
From there I found a BDSM community I could learn from, started doing research, followed kink educators, worked with experienced Dommes in double sessions, learned from experienced subs, and immersed myself in this world.
The Personal Stuff
I’m neurodivergent with ADHD and ASD and I’m passionate about mental health in BDSM – and BDSM for mental health.
I’m a non-binary queer Dom. This means that I don’t identify with any particular gender, regardless of how masculine or feminine I may present. And I am attracted to a person’s soul and energy, not their gender.
We’ll discuss appropriate honorifics in your introductory session.
But none of this makes me who I am. My curiosity, my sense of humour, my intuition, my work ethic, and my passion make me who I am. I bring all of this to being your Dom.
Limits
Limits are the cornerstone of safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. And just like you have yours, I have mine. Communication limits are my personal boundaries regarding how you can contact me. Hard limits are things I will never do under any circumstance. Soft limits are things I might consider with certain submissives under the right conditions. And requirement limits are things that have to happen for us to maintain a dynamic.
Communication Limits
Sundays and Mondays are off limits for all communication. They are my days off. Continued breaching of this boundary will result in me ending the dynamic. If you experience sub-drop after a session you must contact me for support. I am not available for chats in between sessions, you can contact me up to 48 hours before a session to discuss the scene.
Requirement Limits
Before we engage in a dynamic there must be an Introductory Session. The first few sessions of a dynamic will be limited to 15 or 30 minutes, nothing longer, this is to protect us both. Every session ends with aftercare and debrief of what was enjoyed –– Non negotiable!
Soft Limits
Dungeon sessions, Watersports, Foot worship, Physical contact, Blackmail, Financial domination, Blood play, Sub’s self anal play, JOI, Sub’s nudity, Urethral sounding.
Hard Limits
Exchanging sessions for services, My own nudity, Sexual services, Illegal acts, Intimate body worship, Physical touch as a love language, Scat play, Degradation directed at identity, Body shaming, Making a submissive cry intentionally, Pegging, Any form of anal play I have to give, Face slapping, Body modification/mutilation/permanent scarring, Calling me “baby” or other condescending names.
Protocols & Policies
Honorifics
Honorifics play a significant role in establishing and maintaining the dynamic between us. Therefore, you should use them respectfully and appropriately, following our initial discussions during the Introductory Session. My list of accepted honorifics include Sai, Sir, Ma’am, Master, Mistress, Daddy, and Deity; however, we can explore other titles that might better suit our dynamic.
Our conversation during the Introductory Session will cover the significance of each honorific and how it fits into your submissive journey. This ensures mutual understanding and respect. Using these titles correctly enhances our interactions, reinforcing the roles and boundaries we’ve set.
Payments & Tributes
To ensure smooth transactions, please follow these guidelines for payments and tributes.
Payments for Online Sessions: Make payments directly via the website Domme Claire to avoid high fees associated with external platforms.
Payments for Dungeon and Couples Sessions: You can pay via the website, Electronic Funds Transfer (EFT), card machine, or cash.
Tributes: Tributes enhance my life and can be monetary, gifts, or services. Acceptable methods include wishlist items, adopting bills, and everyday spoils. Tributes show appreciation and deepen our connection, supporting my lifestyle and creating a more fulfilling dynamic for both of us.
Acceptable tribute methods include:
- Get me something from my wish list on EasyRegistry
- Adopt a bill on my behalf, such as gym or pole dance memberships, car instalment, phone bill, home or dungeon rent, and so forth.
- Everyday spoils include UberEats or MrDelivery vouchers, funding my date nights, sending me flowers and snacks, pampering me with spa days, new outfits and shoes.
- Invest into my holiday savings fund or retirement annuity.
Additionally, monetary gifts can be done in the following ways:
- Financial Tribute: dommeclaire.com/financial-tribute
- PayPal: paypal.me/dommeclaire
This structured approach to payments and tributes ensures clarity and helps maintain the professional integrity of our interactions.
Deposits
Deposits are essential to secure your session and ensure commitment.
Online Sessions: Pay in full at the time of booking, with 50% considered a non-refundable deposit. This ensures I reserve your slot and confirms your participation.
Dungeon Sessions: You need to pay a 50% non-refundable deposit to secure your booking. You can settle the remaining balance can be paid via EFT, card machine, or cash before the session begins.
Overall, these deposits help maintain the integrity of our scheduling and ensure both parties are committed to the agreed-upon time and date. If you need to cancel or reschedule, refer to the cancellation policy for guidelines on handling deposits. This policy ensures fairness and clarity for both parties, maintaining a professional standard in all interactions.
No-Shows
No-shows disrupt my schedule and waste valuable time. Here are the guidelines for handling them:
Online Sessions: Arrive within 5 minutes of the session start time. If you arrive late without prior communication, I will mark you as a no-show, and you will forfeit the session fee. I will not reschedule the session.
Dungeon Sessions: Arrive within 15 minutes of the session start time. If you arrive late without prior communication, I will mark you as a no-show, and you will forfeit the deposit. I will not reschedule the session.
To avoid no-shows, communicate any delays as soon as possible. This allows me to accommodate changes and maintain a professional relationship. My policies respect time and resources, ensuring the integrity of my scheduling system.
Cancellation & Rescheduling
Life happens, and sometimes plans change. Here are the my guidelines for you can handle cancellations and rescheduling:
Cancellation: If you need to cancel, please do so at least 24 hours in advance. When you have paid in full, I will retain the 50% deposit, and you may receive a refund or credit for future sessions for the remaining amount.
Rescheduling: Notify me at least 24 hours in advance to reschedule your session, and I will hold the deposit for the new date. Additionally, you can reschedule once without forfeiting the deposit. If I need to reschedule, I will credit the entire fee, including the deposit, towards the new session date.
My policies ensure clarity and fairness for both parties, maintaining a professional standard in all interactions.